But the events of this week in Mormondom were almost too big to let go. I was ready to just let it pass, but I've come across too many statements from people frustrated by the many people they that are saying "I wasn't okay with the Church's new policies, either. But then I prayed about it, and now I am. Perhaps you should pray, too."
Well, guess what...I did. I have. And I still feel the same way I did when I prayed about this four years ago. (yes, I was contemplating how we should respond to gay couples years ago. Why are you all so late to this party?) My conclusion: this policy stinks. I'm not okay with it.
If you care to know why, here's what I wrote to a friend on Facebook about it
I think all this talk about the children is a side show. Let me rephrase the thing that really bothers me about this. Regardless of whatever kind of relationship a human being is living in, they are in need of Christ. Full stop.
That puts conservative religions in a tough spot, especially as the evidence builds that homosexuality has genetic causes. How do we bring gay men and women into the fold when their natural disposition is toward something we consider a sin?
I can live with working with a gay person who is seeking the fellowship of Christ and saying that I don't understand how all of the complexities will work out in eternity. It's uncomfortable and deeply unsatisfying. But it's the reality of life.
If there is a gay person out there who is willing to tolerate all of those uncertainties, then we should throw open our arms to do everything we can to help them develop a relationship with Christ.
This policy is a stiff arm. This policy sends the message that we don't even want to try. We don't care about a gay's relationship with Christ any more. Damn them all to hell!
That's why I hate this. And I'm ashamed of this church for doing it.Yes, I still feel that way.
For all of you people out there who agree with me, it's okay to feel that way. I refer you to what I wrote in February of 2013. (http://myuncommondissent.blogspot.com/2013/02/i-tell-no-one-any-story-but-his-own.html). Enough said.
For those of you who don't agree with me, that's fine too. But before you start harping on me about following prophets and seeking confirmation from the Lord, and all that stuff you'll use to tell me that the only right conclusion is to agree with the Church, let me point out that our own scriptures establish a pattern of revelation.
Yea, behold, I will tell you in your mind and in your heart, by the Holy Ghost, which shall come upon you and which shall dwell in your heart.
Now, behold, this is the spirit of revelation; behold, this is the spirit by which Moses brought the children of Israel through the Red Sea on dry ground.As it turns out, in my mind and in my heart, I feel that this policy is wrong. So bear with me while I hold confidence in what the Holy Ghost is revealing to me and I'll bear with you while you hold confidence in what the Holy Ghost is revealing to you. Deal? Good. Done.
In the meantime, I'm not completely sure what the best way to invite gay families into our church is. I'm not 100% sure my ideas would work. It's a messy, complicated, challenging situation. But I'm confident that we should be willing to work with any and all souls who wish to come to Christ, regardless of what their sins are. Anything less is unbecoming of a disciple of Christ.
Ben, my exact sentiments. Of course, you are way more eloquent and diplomatic than I am. Thanks for this post.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for putting so eloquently into words what I have been thinking and feeling. I have been struggling so much with issues around gender identity, conservative gender definitions etc. and the church over the past few years. It is really hard to be in a small Branch, which is very conservative and somewhat divorced from running as it should, whilst being of a more liberal mindset. While I haven't left altogether, I rarely go any more and feel exhausted and depressed when I do. So much of what said, including this latest attack on those who are non heterosexual, feels so very wrong to me. I pray and pray, and still it feels wrong. I tell myself that His Prophet on Earth will not be allowed to lead us astray, yet these messages speak to me of hate,not love, and certainly not my Father and Mother in Heaven. It really helps to know that I'm not alone in trying to fathom out these issues. Thanks again, Benjamin.
ReplyDeleteOh, Sam, I feel so sorry for you in your position. No one should dread going to church unless it's because it means getting out of bed.
DeleteIf you are interested in some relief that doesn't require a sabbatical, volunteer to work in Primary. Just show up and tell the primary president you want to sub a class and sit and listen to the kids sing. As the kids fall in love with you, so will the adults, and your crazy liberalism won't matter so much. The key is to make them know Sam before they know Sam the socialist.
But at least know you're not alone.
Oh, Sam, I feel so sorry for you in your position. No one should dread going to church unless it's because it means getting out of bed.
DeleteIf you are interested in some relief that doesn't require a sabbatical, volunteer to work in Primary. Just show up and tell the primary president you want to sub a class and sit and listen to the kids sing. As the kids fall in love with you, so will the adults, and your crazy liberalism won't matter so much. The key is to make them know Sam before they know Sam the socialist.
But at least know you're not alone.
Hey Ben. Thanks for your comments. I just read the article linked below and found it to be very meaningful. Hopefully this link works. If not it's gaymormonblogspot.com with an entry about this subject called waiting on the Lord. http://lm.facebook.com/l.php?u=http%3A%2F%2Fgaymormonguy.blogspot.com%2F2015%2F11%2Fwaiting-on-lord-same-sex-adoption.html%3Fm%3D1&h=3AQFZxhL4&enc=AZOEw-l2A2LSET0H02PhqM1JwZU63I7oHafZLWN-ueEN1hyHVCzuTillt8o4JtYTszg&s=1
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